From 100 MORE Days of Weight Loss, Day 90
When you ignore feelings of hurt or push them away, they tend to become deeper, eventually growing into bitterness and resentment.
The longer you hold these feelings, the harder it becomes to heal a wound.
Here are my answers to the three questions at the end of the lesson.
1. Identify times when you’ve been hurt or let down by another person.
I’ve been through many losses in my life and I’ve had to really work at not staying angry and bitter. I was fired from a job, forced to relocate my weight-loss clinic and hurt by church groups.
2. Write about your feelings around this, including any bitterness or resentment.
In each of these situations, I initially went through lots of hurt and anger. I learned that I had to process it, talk it out, and be willing to let go and move on. Not easy to do, but very necessary to stay emotionally healthy.
3. Resolve to let go of the hot coal in your hand and work on healing.
What has helped me most in the past is to journal about my feelings. I use the exercises that I share in this book: “I feel, because of…” and “I’m angry and I’m also.” Once I get my thoughts and feelings down on paper, I can do a better job of letting go of them.