From 100 MORE Days of Weight Loss, Day 85
Knowing you don’t ever have to be done with grief gives you a tremendous sense of freedom.
Instead of pushing to get past them and forget your loss, remind yourself those memories are part of your healing.
Here are my answers to the three questions at the end of the lesson.
1. Identify a time you’ve been through the loss of a person or even a pet. Describe how you felt at the time of the loss.
Like yesterday’s note, I’m thinking about my mom. There are so many small things that remind me of her. I often wish I could ask her about a recipe or get her advice about some area of life.
2. Picture the healing road and identify some of the sections you’ve gone through.
It’s been 13 years since my mom died, but I can still picture many of the events along the way. She lived in a small town in South Dakota where it was traditional to have a funeral procession of cars that drove from the church to the cemetery. There were nearly 50 cars in the procession for my mom. It makes me tearful just thinking about it and picturing how much she was loved and respected by her community.
3. Write about the memories that will always remain in your last 20 percent of healing.
My mom wasn’t perfect, but I loved her a lot. I’m still amazed at how she shifted her rigid religious beliefs over the years and became caring and accepting of all types and styles of people. Even in the nursing home her last year (when she was 84) she learned the names of all the staff and called them by name when they came into her room! She was a great model for things like this. I really miss her a lot today! That’s certainly evidence of my 20 percent.