From 100 MORE Days of Weight Loss, Day 75
Look carefully at whether people hooks are driving your emotional eating. You can still care about the people you love. Just don’t let yourself disappear in the process.
Remember this important guideline:
It’s not your job to fix people. It’s your job to love them!
Here are my answers to the three questions at the end of the lesson.
1. Identify places in life where you get caught in the people hook.
I’ve worked on this a lot over the years and right now, I don’t have much trouble with it. But I’ve seen this happen a lot with some of my coaching clients.
2. Create a plan that will help you unhook and say no when needed.
With my clients, I help them look at ways to decrease the level of how much people’s problems affect them as well as how much effort they put into trying to fix others.
3. Make a sign that says: “It’s not my job to fix them. It’s my job to love them.”
I love this phrase! I’ve used it a lot with my coaching work — it helps me not get caught up in the drama of people’s lives. Instead, I can focus on reaching out to my clients and caring about them.