A country singer named Justin Moore has a fun song called “That’s Why We Drink.” I think the lyrics explain why many of us have struggled with our weight this summer.
Just change the name of the song to “That’s Why We Eat” and you’ll have the answer. [Read more…]
When one of my nephews was around three years old, he would start to wail and cry whenever he was put into his car seat. One day, his mother demonstrated how his teddy bear was able to calm itself by putting its paws together and thinking quiet thoughts.
They practiced this a couple times, and my nephew loved how this worked. After that, whenever she put my nephew into his car seat, she would say, “Now, just like your teddy bear, put your little hands together and calm yourself.” [Read more…]
One morning, Donna’s husband took the dog for a walk and never came back.Over the next three days, the police searched for her husband but couldn’t find any clues of where he might be.
It seemed that Donna’s husband had simply disappeared along with the dog that was her best friend.
But it got worse. [Read more…]
In our small town in Iowa, we live next to a row of duplex condominiums. While walking our dogs past these homes, my husband and I have met several of our neighbors, including Amber, a single mom raising a teenage daughter.
A couple summers ago, we noticed Amber had trimmed some of her trees but left the branches and leaves in a random pile next to the curb. [Read more…]
No more sabotage!
Just when you thought your diet was going great, things start to go wrong. Instead of giving you flowers on your birthday, your spouse hands you a large box of chocolates.
Then, in the middle of your favorite TV program, your kids rip open a bag of potato chips, plunk them down on the coffee table in front of you and ask, “Want some?” [Read more…]
What’s in my way?
Are you an “all or nothing” person? Even if you don’t think it’s affecting you, perfectionism can block you from reaching your goals.
Most perfectionists tend to follow the same theme—do it right or don’t do it at all. But since they never reach the point where they can do it “right,” perfectionists never start. [Read more…]
What’s in my way?
We’ve all said it: I know what to do, I just don’t do it!
Just like the dog in the photo, we do the opposite of what we intend to do. Regardless of how long we’ve worked on managing our weight, we still have times when things get in our way. [Read more…]
Nurturing without foodIn last week’s lesson, you were supposed to ask the question, “What do I need?” over and over until you had a list of your needs.But figuring out what we need is not easy. I struggled with making my list and wondered if I should leave some things off because I can’t do anything about them right now. [Read more…]
What do I need?
In the context of emotional eating, the word “need” describes a want or a desire.
Maybe you yearn for things that would make your life better, such as more time or money or even more people to do things with. [Read more…]
Expressing, Not StuffingWhen Valerie went back to school, her husband agreed to take care of their home one evening a week. He knew he was supposed to feed the kids and get them ready for bed.
But week after week, he left the dirty dishes sitting on the table and the children’s clothes strewn all over the floor. Valerie constantly tried to get him to change his behavior by saying she wanted him to be more responsible around the house. [Read more…]